The sun sets on another day...
Today was filled with driving off to be inspired by stacks of people who were just, well, inspiring. On the way back the sun began to set and the clouds parted for just a moment to let in a golden ray of sunlight. Since I did not drive I had time to think, and think I did.
I saw a keynote speaker spin a wonderful tale of fantastic positives today. It was not a small feat and involved many people, and many positives, and along the way they simply said the ultimate statement, "It was all up to me."
Now, along the way they lauded many people and let them know how people lifted them up, but it was not up to all of the people to make them happy. It was up to them to make the difference, and make their lives work.
Buzzz....(That was a klaxon going off)
Well, maybe we need to make it easy. We hold in our hands the ability to make our lives the best they can be, it is in your hand. I can make my life the best it can be, or a living hell, and if I choose to do so it will be me that decides that, not you.
You can decide today is the best day in the world, and this day will only get better tomorrow because you are in control of your life, not me.
We all should take that moment and realize, accept, and embrace that we are the only determiner in our life. It doesn't matter that the milkman stopped down the street and dropped the milk off at the wrong house, it matters that you find your way to get milk if you need it, or set it aside if you don't. It is up to you, yes you, to make your life better. (and to get yummy cold milk)
Now, that does not mean you can't have a little help along the way, but you have to allow yourself to be helped, you have to grab the hand when it reaches to you and hold on. you have to let yourself be helped. I will say again though, help or not, you are in control.
I know, it is scary, but you know what, I believe in you. I am not sure who you are or what problems you have or don't have, but I believe in you because I believe every person has the power to make their life whatever they want, even in the face of the worst life has to offer. You can set aside the pain, and the frustration, and embrace the happiness and the cookies (Yes cookies are good and they go with the cold milk). You are the best person qualified to build your perfect life, so start making it happen.
So as the sun sets on another day, take a breath, enjoy a moment, smile, laugh, and in the process start taking control of who you are and who you will be. Overcome the pain if you have any, set aside the frustration, and be the best you can dream of, and maybe a little more, and remember, help is out there, reach out when they are there or walk alone. but find your way to a perfect day every day, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, walk strong, and live for a happy life...
The sun sets on another day...
I will apologize in advance. Each day I try to keep to around 300-700 words. I have just started writing this post and fear it will not be so short, but we will see. Each day I consider things I have seen, talked about, discovered, uncovered, ingested, digested, laughed at, loved, hated, or merely baited and in the process I come up with a single topic to write about. Sometimes it is similar to so many others talking about the past, the future and the now, and sometimes it is something new, we will see how this goes tonight. I also apologize, this post is not about you, or it is about you, but only you can decide that, I did not write about it with anyone in mind.
As you can guess there are a lot of parks where I am. Truthfully there are a lot of parks anywhere if you look for them and many people do, and many people don't. Where I am the closest large park is on Lake Michigan only a few miles away. I go there and smile at the guards, laugh with the people who stand at the park with me, and watch the sunset. Tonight was different.
As I drove into the park a herd of deer waited. They watched me like I was some caustic invader, then slowly bounded off to the south. I watched them go and did not have a camera close enough to grab the images of the fawns and does as they dissolved into the forest. I committed it to memory instead. As I drove to the guard shack the shack was empty, dark, no signs remained nor any light of any kind, and I drove by looking inside to chairs carefully placed, and a setting that was gone for now. As I drove into the long road leading to the beach, parts of trees were strewn about the usually pristine roads, leaves mixed with large pieces of trees, pine cones, and general clutter blew in the wind to and fro, and I dodged the bigger sections making sure I did not hang up the truck. I pulled to the beach and the sheds and garages were chained and locked, while the pathway was cluttered as well as though years of neglect had caressed it all, when I knew it had only been days. I walked to the overlook and watched the sun try to set.
The waves beat upon the shore, and the wind howled. Yesterday it was over 80 degrees, and now it was barely 40, and as I watched, the waves grew and pounded not only each other, but everything in their path. True, it is a lake, but it is not just a lake, it is a small ocean, a body of water that for the young would seemingly have no end. I heard a crack behind me and turned as I watched the trees sway in the wind, their leaves turned upwards with the sheer power of the onslaught upon them. I walked to a tree and put my hand on the trunk and felt the tree sway to and fro even though it was nearly four feet in diameter. It was at that moment I thought of this line of thinking, and the end of the warmth, the season, and all that we had been experiencing.
You see, for every beginning there is an end, and for every end there is a new beginning. Yes, I know, this seems almost obvious, or does it? I realized that I had been thinking about this very idea not for a few minutes, or hours, or days or weeks, but for years. For every beginning there is an end, and for every end, yes, there is a beginning. This may not be what you think or hope, or even consider all of the time but I feel it is true.
When something starts it is usually built on a foundation, and the foundation may be strong or weak. This is often hard to say. This is true for most beginnings. From being born, to a new car, from a relationship, to a sailing ship, each thing is built based on some sort of idea or plan. The foundation whether weak or strong has an effect on the item, but it is not the determiner. A strong foundation has advantages but can change over time, and a weak foundation can grow and become far more. The tree that cracked had a strong foundation, but the wind was relentless, and it will be changed forever. If we build on strong foundations, we will have a good start, but the way to the way may change everything and we should always be aware, each day is a new beginning. Yeah, that's right, each day is a new beginning that will set our foundations for that day, or for more. Each day we have a chance to make things stronger, or weaker when it comes to us. Now all the other stuff, it requires maintenance too so pay attention to the beginning of it all, and the beginnings of each day.
There is an end as well though. If you have not kept up, the name 29000 sunsets is a definition of an end. If we only had 29000 sunsets, would you do something different? It is a finite stake in the ground to allow us to consider what we are missing, and how we can stop missing it. If there is a finite end, are we waiting too long to find those things that are important? What is important, and what should be discarded? Yuck, this sounds depressing, but it is not, nor is it meant to be. Each day we should strive to have the best day possible not because we are some silly over the top positive person, but because we can! We should have the best day every day because we can, not because of some hint of an end. The end may be long or short, happy or sad or a million other things. The end may take an instant or forever, in the end it is an end, but it is only over when it is over, not before, and of course not after.
In the middle of it all we should realize that any end comes with a promise of a new beginning. No, I will not preach or tell you how you can get here, only you can decide that but remember, a broken vehicle opens us to a new vehicle, leaving a location opens the possibilities of a new location, relationships ending open new relationships, death opens up possibilities for new beginnings as well.
Now, this isn't some afterlife discussion, gads, that would be so theoretical, mainly because I have not died. If you ask me, I will talk about my beliefs, but not here. I do mean in death we have options for rebirth. As the tree falls in the woods, the bear hears it, because he is in the woods as well (Funny huh). In the death of the tree there are new trees, more growth, and the circle continues. Don't expect me to start singing Elton John, he does it far better than I could, but this all boils down to you. The sun has set on another day, is it an ending or a doorway to a new beginning tomorrow? The choice is up to you.
Lastly, please remember, we are in between, and I know that is where I usually focus. That in between where we squeeze every moment out of every day to make it a day to remember, not a day to blend in with one after another after another after another ad nausea. Instead a day to make all days, not a day to end all days, but a day to begin another day, where we can go even further.
I have a friend who is past awesome. For some time now he has posted a new picture every day. It may not seem like much to some people, but he finds something new and exciting each day and it is a passion he has been exploring and living. He shares these not just for anyone to see, but for him as well, and in the process, we all come along for the ride. Me, I have written every day for a long time, and it was a beginning so many years ago born out of an end, and an exploration each day. (But usually not this bad)
So as the sun sets on another day, this moment is a beginning and an end to you, not for this post, or for me, but something to remember. A stoic heralding that there are new things in store, and old things, and just things. Grasp them all, and begin and end as it makes your life better knowing that for every ending, there is a new beginning, and for every beginning there is an end, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and smile at the stars beyond...
The sun sets on another day...
I was thinking today about the sunset as it set and I could not see it. The warm rain was here instead, and as it rained I thought about all the things we can and cannot see. At the top of my list, well in the top many, there was how people really were, and as I thought about it I considered a movie from long ago, "The Ten Commandments". Now, don't get me wrong, I was thinking of it not for all the significance it had and has, but for a simple area where Moses asked the burning bush for a name and got "I am that I am".
Wouldn't that be easy.
Follow me for a moment into everyday.
You walk into a store, "Good afternoon, welcome, how are you" "I am fine"
A restaurant, "How are you folks doing today?", "Fine thanks, and you?" "Just fine..."
A friend, "How is it going?" "Fine."
We talk as though we are always good, but in the process we may lose the ability be be good. Now don't get me wrong, there are plenty of people that are "fine". Some are more "fine" than "fine", but how many are not "fine" and just say they are, and is that helping? How many just answer and don't consider how they can make their day better?
May I suggest a better solution. We face so many things daily, and have so much bottled inside, that perhaps if we say we are "fine", we should be. I know I know, lots of people say they are "fine" and are, and many say they are "fine" and become "fine", and some even say they are "fine" and make it through as "fine", even though they are something different. Perhaps the trick is to say something a little different that gives you the ability find your way to "fine" and more.
Yes yes, this is a lot to swallow. Maybe it doesn't follow and maybe it is off base. But, Instead of "fine" perhaps we can say, "Hanging on" or "I will get there" or "I am on my way to fine, thanks for asking". We can even take another path and start a joke, or make it fun. Perhaps if we just take a few minutes and stop being so robotic we might find we were fine, we just didn't know it.
Well, I am what I am, and I am fine some days, and some days I have to find my way to fine.
So as the sun sets on another day, be what you are, be what you will be, but mostly find a way to be happy with yourself and along the way, try to take a few people with you. Being "fine" is OK, well, it is "fine". Maybe we need to be a little more. Maybe we need to be awesome, spectacular, amazing, awe inspiring and maybe even super-stupendous. Decide what you want to be, then do it. I have a suggestion, be fine as frog's hair, and make it true all the time, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and you sure are fine...
The sun sets on another day...
Somewhere in the last few days we have shifted from fall back to summer. I am sure it is a linkage problem or maybe just an issue with the transmission, but it sure feels warm outside. As I watch the warm wind blow the changing leaves it feel nearly surreal and reminds me of days, months, and years past.
I know I know, I press hard to live and focus on today. To never whine about the past or pine about the future and define ourselves in the present. I spend a lot of time with the very thoughts about making lives better by not overthinking that this may sound bad or hypocritical but I assure it is not. Sometimes you have to take a moment and remember.
Now I am not saying get lost in it, but the past does make us who we are, and taking a short time to appreciate it is not the end of the world. Instead use a few minutes to consider the best pats of your past. So walk down memory lane with me for a moment.
- See summers in Michigan where I learned more from my Grandparents than almost anyone, bailing hay, splitting wood, and enjoying the summers with friends
- See time close friends, and a series of people who influenced me for a long time
- See special times, special people, and special moments that I have seen and shared
Sure. Every up has a down, but I can set those aside in favor of looking at the things that are and should be best. I can push the envelope to make those moments stay special. Isn't that the way to live? Looking at the bright side daily? Setting aside the bad parts and living for the best we can? Now I am not saying that we forget the bad, we better not, I am just saying we need to stop bringing the bad to the front and let the good show us why we continue to find a way each day.
Yeah, that's it.
So as the sun sets on another day, stop a minute and look for a few good memories, and spend a moment with them. Don't get lost in them but instead find strength in them. Remember a special day, month, week, or weekend. Remember and find a way to happiness, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and live it...